Why Some Women Use Jealousy With Men

Before we start discussing why women feel the need to make a man jealous, let’s say that this will not apply to all women out there. Not all women have the need to make a man jealous, in fact they know what jealousy is and try to avoid that emotion all together.

With that being said, we can go on to the main topic. Some women feel that if a man has a jealous reaction about another man’s feelings for that woman, it somehow means they care more about her. Sounds pretty ridiculous right? But it’s true, jealousy in some people’s mind, yes even men, is associated incorrectly with love.

Once a wise person stated that if you try to make a person jealous and they have no reaction, that’s what you want. That may seem onbelievable to people who live or even thrive on jealous emotiona. But really jealousy is an untrusting emotion.

It’s hard to say why some women feel this way, but I’ve done it before myself. After almost a year with a guy, a made a comment one day to him. I simply said that my ex-husband wanted to get back together, and I was considering it. Expecting to have him say something like, “I can’t live without you”, but he stated, “If that’s what you want”. The exact opposite of what I had hoped to hear, and at that point I was very upset.

So why did I want him to be jealous? I figured that he would profess his love and say how he always wanted to be with me, and please don’t leave him. Any of those words from his mouth to me would have been proof that he did love me. Instead I got the complete opposite. Instead I heard words that made me question his love, even though I shouldn’t have.