Relationships And Insecurity: Feeling Better About Your Relationship
Relationships are horrible if you feel insecurity. Whether it be a feeling of mistrust or jealousy, it all takes a toll on any relationship, and over time may even ruin it. So you should let go of those insecurities and find a way to have a healthier relationship.Insecurity can come about in many ways during a relationship, so you may have more than one thing to work on. But with a bit of time and help you can get past most if not all insecurities that are within you. Yes some relationships may be past the point of no return to feel secure with each other but many on the brink of disaster can be brought back to life. One of the main causes that you and a spouse, or lover may not be able to get past is where one of you has cheated, but with patience and maybe counseling even such devastating actions can be healed.
Not all people who have been cheated on will break up with the partner who has cheated on them. There are many married couples who have worked past that point in their relationships. But there still may be a bit of harboring insecurities. Extra counseling may be needed for the person harboring lingering doubts.
Another way a person may make a partner feel insecure in a relationship is by not letting the other person know they are loved. Some couples just don’t say those three words as often as others, but that doesn’t mean they don’t love each other. If you’re a person who likes to hear those three magic words, “I love you”, and the person you are with doesn’t say them you may feel insecure. Which is understandable, however, you should sit them down and see why they won’t or don’t say those words. It could be something as simple as they just weren’t aware that you felt that way.
In any relationship communication is key. If you can’t talk to your partner, you most likely will not last very long. Sooner or later one or both of you will get fed up and want out of the relationship. Not that everything can be fixed by talking, but it’s better than holding it all inside and letting it fester.
The reasons for insecurities may be many; perhaps you feel you aren’t that good looking. This can be true in both men and women within any given relationship. This feeling of I’m not attractive, or pretty, or good enough may pop up when your partner talks to someone of the opposite sex who is pretty, or looks better. It may make you feel bad about yourself, angry with them, or jealous of your partner and/or of the person he or hse is talking to. Not only might you feel bad, but might make a comment like “you think he/she looks better”, or “you want him/her”.
Comments that are jealous comments is caused by insecurity. Feeling jealous about something or what someone has done can often heighten your insecure feelings. So you have to cure these jealous reactions by creating better self-esteem within yourself. These things will help to make your relationship stronger.
As far as if you’re insecure because your partner has cheated before. Well it’s really going to take time and a marriage counselor if you both feel the need to work through that. But work on not feeling jealous and realize that you partner chose you not another
