Dealing With A Friends Jealousy
Your friend’s jealousy may be because you are popular in just about any crowd. It’s not really important why they are jealous — maybe you are humorous and make people laugh, or maybe your the intellectual type and people enjoy your knowledge or maybe you just have a natural beauty about you — whatever is causing your friends jealousy you need to deal with it and correct it.So, what do you do to deal with a friend’s jealousy?
The first thing is don’t change if your just being natural and they are envious. You are you, it’s who you are, and you need to remember that is what makes you special, so don’t change who you are — at least not if your not trying to make a friend jealous on purpose.
If a friend’s jealousy is ruining your friendship there are things you can try to do to stop the relationship from going sour. The first step is to evaluate the relationship… Does their jealousy have merit? Are you acting in ways that are intended to create your friends jealousy? If so you may need to correct your actions when you are around them.
Now, I mean are you purposely trying to make your friends jealousy come out? I’m not referring to jealousy that is caused or comes to light because your friend is envious of you for some reason. So if you are causing your friends jealousy, why are you doing this? Are you trying to get attention away from them? What’s causing you to act in that way? Finding out why you do this is key to correcting it? Once you know the reason why, you can then take actions to change so that you no longer need to make someone feel jealous.
So what if you’re not trying making a friend jealous? More often than not I’d say this is what happens with relationships affected by friends jealousy. It’s not you; but the other person who is jealous because they want to be like you. They want what you have or maybe they don’t trust you for some reason.
Another cause of a friend being jealous is they feel inferior. They could possibly even feel left out or neglected. If you’ve ever had this type of experience then you already know very well how jealousy can creep into any friendship.
Rational or not, you need to deal with this. Ask them why they are jealous or why they display jealousy when you are around them. Talk it out and try to come to some kind of reasonable solution that both of you can live with. Communication is key to solving a friend’s jealousy.
Hopefully, they will open up and let you know what is making them feel the way they do and explain why as well. If they don’t — ask them directly what is going on. Nicely of course, but still be direct.
Although you don’t want to change your own personality to make someone else happy, as this will make you miserable, you have to look at how they feel. See if there’s some flexibility in the situation and a way you can help resolve the friends jealousy and possible tensions that exist between you two.
The best way to cure a friend’s jealousy is to keep the channels of communication open and respect their feelings. If you are unable to do that, then the only answer may be to get a new friend.
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